Let’s talk about the one relationship that makes most of us cringe—our relationship with money.
Be truthful—you just rolled your eyes, felt your jaw muscles tighten, or had that quick impulse to vomit.
But, wait! Give me minute to explain.
What I have found in my own journey and in working with my clients is that one pathway to transforming your current situation into a better one starts with understanding your relationship with money.
Believe it or not how you think and feel money has been hard-wired into your subconscious during childhood, usually from your family of origin (whoever raised you). We all learned spoken and unspoken rules and assumptions about money that continue to effect our life choices now as adults. Those thoughts and feelings ultimately impact our behavior with money without us even realizing it.
For example, you might think that money is bad, scary, or something to avoid at all costs. Thinking about money may bring up feelings of anxiety, frustration, desperation, power, manipulation or helplessness. Perhaps, you were taught that only rich people are successful with money, that being wealthy is a negative or that “people like us” will always have less.
As an adult, you may have found yourself in repeating self-sabotaging stressful money patterns that you can’t seem to break—waiting for someone to rescue you (and being annoyed when that someone doesn’t), using credit cards as your emergency fund (and then having too much credit card debt), continuing to financially support others in your life even though you remain financially depleted, and denying yourself things or experiences because you feel guilty spending money even though you have enough in the bank.
These money beliefs and patterns then impact other areas of your life and decisions you make—your relationships, how you socialize, career choices, retirement planning, and what you do (or don’t do) for fun. Because these money scripts are hard-wired and subconscious, you are unaware and unable to change the situation even though you may have tried…and tried again.
Finding awareness of your particular money story, money scripts and behavior, and then taking new action, is where I come in.
Awareness is the necessary starting point to initiating any new change. It is important to understand how and why your money story and money scripts became part of your unique self. Together we can expand your thoughts to what is possible with money and explore healthier less stressful ways to manage and relate to your money. We can create new rules and beliefs that are more appropriate for your life today—ones that support who you are now and what you want to create in your life.
Once your thoughts, emotions and beliefs about money shift, new conscious (non-fear based) money habits and behaviors will follow. You potentially will have money for things you desire with a lot less stress.
How to begin? Easy.
Take the free money type quiz to determine which money archetypes are driving your current behaviors—we all have a few that influence our behavior—this is the fun part and there is no future obligation. Just take the quiz–it is a link found at the top of this page. See where you are right now with money (your relationship with money changes over time, so if you’ve taken the quiz before, try again now and see where you are today).
Here’s the scoop…there are eight different money archetypes: Innocent, Victim, Warrior, Martyr, Fool, Creator/Artist, Tyrant and Magician.
Which one are you? Go find out.
With love,
Heather