For me, that “B” word is a lot like the word DIET! It immediately makes me resent it, I feel deprived and depleted, and now I’m starving. The “B” word makes HANGRY about money and pretty soon I’m spending money on just about anything for a good dopamine surge.
I’m a fan of the words MONEY FLOW instead that “B” word. The energy around those words is positive and a lot more appealing. Let’s face it—the flow of our money changes from month to month, year to year, and has to accommodate for the unexpected. The good news is that YOU get to choose how you manage your money flow. Many avoid it, some assume that others will handle it, but at the end of the day—-your money flow is your money flow. After years of ignoring it (which didn’t work, by the way) I chose to take control of it. Now, I am in control of my money. Money no longer controls me. And guess what? I actually have the money to do the things I really want to do.
My secret—with the help of my own coach, I called myself out on my own bullshit, took out the calculator and figured out exactly how much credit card debt I owed. Once I faced the scary truth, I got to work and examined my own patterns with money—the HOW, the WHY and the WHERE I spent my money became clear. And then, I changed the script—I became a warrior and rescued myself. My money flow now works for me. Put another way—-I am the boss of my money flow, and I take my job very seriously.
Ultimately, I decided to make money my friend—not something that I feared. So, I’ve made money FUN! You read that right. I have spread sheets, tracking sheets, I know all my passwords, and I actually look at my balances weekly (ok, sometimes daily) to make sure my money is behaving itself. The game of my Money Flow is now easy and enjoyable.
Understanding your own emotions, beliefs and patterns with money is a good first step to becoming your own money boss. Perhaps you are already managing your money, but still feel stressed or guilty whenever you spend money. Maybe you haven’t saved what you want, but are willing to try a different approach. If you have trouble with the “B” word, try money flow and see how that works for you.
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Always with love,
Heather