“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” —Dalai Lama XIV
“You can’t always get what you want
But if you try sometime you find
You get what you need.” —The Rolling Stones
I can’t even begin to tell you how many times things in my life did not go as planned or expected, and then looking back I realized it was for the best. Trust me when I say that I have been disappointed—-A LOT! You too, right? Relationships, experiences, plans, wants, and desires—-crushed, and sometimes crushed within a split second. And yet, once I navigated the loss or disappointment, and once I redirected my path, I found that I was in a much better place. This new place in my life turned out to be more authentic for me. Have you ever felt that way?
Of course, this brings me to where we are today—-almost one year since our world was changed forever. Coronavirus came to our country and the Universe literally shut the whole world down. Immediately, my soul knew that this was biblical, that the Universe had better plans for us, and that there was much healing and work to do, individually and collectively. Truthfully, even though I knew there was going to be much confusion and discomfort, I was excited by the potential transformations that could happen…for myself and for you.
We endured so many hurts and losses. There were moments that were downright painful—for myself, my children, my extended family, and my friends. Heartbreaking stories of loved ones taken from us too soon. Uplifting activities—competitions, sports, camps, travel plans, weddings—GONE! What did you and your family go through this year? I’m sure at times it felt frustrating and futile, but you managed. Here’s the secret—the gold nugget. We did it. You did it. You navigated this year the best you could, and I’m proud of you. It’s time to take a small pause and be proud of yourself too.
The Universe works in interesting and unexpected ways. It presents challenges for us to learn and grow. One of my personal struggles, which comes from a place of lack and depletion, has always been around money. The fear comes from my past, but is one of those fears I’ve carried around my whole life and was never able to release. Last March, I was furloughed from my medical job. I was shocked. Who had ever heard of a doctor being furloughed? The furlough letter brought me to my knees—full panic mode. How in the world was I going to take care of my family? The mortgage was put on hold for a couple months, and all unnecessary spending came to a halt. I paid every other bill, my kids and I didn’t starve, and any stress around money completely disappeared. Living on unemployment for two months allowed me to shift my thoughts around money from a place of depletion to a place of abundance. And once I went back to work, paying my mortgage and caring for my family was no longer a monthly stress. My furlough was a gift from the Universe, and I’m forever grateful.
One of the beauties of these life challenges is that there is opportunity for growth and change within the struggle. As a life coach/doctor/healer I embrace that struggle because I know the growth of transformation is so powerful. For me, I found connection and healing within the quiet of this year. It felt good not to be constantly running around and feeling the need to have plans. It felt authentic to focus on all those people and situations in my life that were important to me. And all the “stuff” that was never important seemed to just fade away.
I’m curious as to how you handled the past year. In what ways did this year offer you gifts that you could never have expected? In what ways was this year positive for you? I would love to hear your stories and cheer on your accomplishments. I welcome your emails. If you have not found the silver lining, please connect with me. I will try to support you in whatever way I can.
Always with love,
Heather
